It made me think of the term ' Indian Giver'. The gift is simply a tool to be used by the narc as some form of manipulation. No gift is ever given by a narc w/out some strings attached. So ALWAYS beware of narc gift givers.ДЄlso, after talking to my bro another thing struck me. They don't care what's special about YOU - plain and simple. If one lacks empathy and basic human consideration for others ( which narcs do lack), there's no way that person can possibly take the time to pick out a heartfelt gift that says something special about YOU. It's either cheap, suited to THEIR tastes, or a ploy to illicit some form of adoration/worship from you for THEM. which occasions NM has 'conveniently' forgotten.ДЇirst of all, anyone who is in contact with a narcissist knows that they are awful gift givers overall - if they even decide to give you anything. The irony of it all is that my brother has already told NM a couple of times that he doesn't need nor want the chandelier/lamp that she already tried to give him on numerous occasions. Say what?! No inference as to having previously promised them to my brother? Of course not! In fact, she did her usual projection/gaslight tactic by telling him that NSis really wanted a chandelier & lamp but NM strictly said, 'No' to those items as she was saving those for my dear brother ( Aww again at what a great mother she is! * insert sarcasm* ). HOWEVER, when my brother called to wish NM a Happy Easter, NM informed my bro that NSis was coming out to their house for Easter and her DH was bringing his truck so they could take the tables. 6 months ago, though of course after NM made a note to let him know that she's offering them to him since he doesn't get much ( Aww, what a great mother!! - *gag*).

I just talked to my Brother ( who is NM's scapegoat) the day after Easter to find out that NM has struck a chord with one of us kids AGAIN - no surprise there! Apparently a nice set of bistro table have been sitting in their basement for years being stored/unused and NM promised them to my bro approx.

Indian giver